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Anyone who has ever ventured into the world of dating knows how stressful a first date can be. This is almost always true whether you are going out with someone you have known for a while, or if it’s a person you met through an online dating service like Stoic Matchmaker. One of the best […]

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Anyone who has ever ventured into the world of dating knows how stressful a first date can be. This is almost always true whether you are going out with someone you have known for a while, or if it’s a person you met through an online dating service like Stoic Matchmaker. One of the best ways to deal with first date anxiety is to plan what you will do and the places you will go ahead of time. That way, during the date itself you can spend your time talking with the other person and getting to know them, rather than trying to come up with fun things to do at the last minute. Remember, too, that it’s always a good idea to have a backup plan in case your first date idea falls through due to an event cancellation or bad weather.

Read on to find five fun activity ideas you can try on your next first date.

Enjoy a Meal at a Nice Restaurant

It might sound simple or cliché, but dining at a nice restaurant on a first date is always a great idea. You are free to talk to each other all you want without having to cook or clean up, and you can try new dishes that you might not order when you are out with your friends. Going out to a nice restaurant is also a great excuse to dress up in a nice outfit, or get your hair and nails done. Talking with your date over a delicious meal in a restaurant with a relaxed atmosphere can also help reduce any stress you might have about the date itself.

Participate in a Wine Tasting

Wine tasting events are a great way to try several types of wine at once, helping you and your date discover new wines that you will love without having to purchase entire bottles. Try to find a wine tasting led by a master sommelier who can guide your tasting experience and help you understand what to look for in different types of wine. You and your date will have a great time experiencing new wines together. You can even plan ahead and purchase a few bottles of your favorite wines to share on your next date, giving you both something fun to look forward to (and taking the stress away from asking for a second date). If you are not sure what you will talk about during your date, wine can also make an interesting conversation topic.

Support Your Favorite Team

Sporting events aren’t just for getting together with family or friends. Having a first date at a baseball or hockey game where you can both support your favorite team can be a lot of fun. You can both wear your team memorabilia, eat delicious snacks that you might not have at home, and cheer to your heart’s content. And because sports games are casual events, going to one on a first date can take away a lot of the anxiety you might have about what you should wear. Perhaps best of all, unlike at a concert or a play, it’s OK to laugh and chat during a sports game, so you can get to know your date better while you follow the action on the field.

Try a Board Game Night

If you’re looking for a casual, low cost idea for a first date, a board game night could be just what you’re looking for. You and your date can get to know each other while you enjoy snacks and wine or soft drinks, and introduce each other to your favorite games. A board game night is also a fun way to learn how to play new games. And best of all, there are no rules. If you and your date don’t like the first game you try you can set it aside and move on to another one. And if you find a game that you both love, you can play it as long as you want.

Go For a Hike

Hiking together is a great way to get to know someone and spend time in a beautiful natural location at the same time, which can also be very romantic. Hiking trails are available in city, state and national parks, on private conservation land, and in municipal wilderness areas. Hiking trails are available for all fitness levels, too. You can pack a picnic lunch and make a day of it, or choose a trail that only takes a short time to complete and then take your date out to lunch.

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Anyone who has ever ventured into the world of dating knows how stressful a first date can be. This is almost always true whether you are going out with someone you have known for a while, or if it’s a person you met through an online dating service like Stoic Matchmaker. One of the best ways to deal with first date anxiety is to plan what you will do and the places you will go ahead of time. That way, during the date itself you can spend your time talking with the other person and getting to know them, rather than trying to come up with fun things to do at the last minute. Remember, too, that it’s always a good idea to have a backup plan in case your first date idea falls through due to an event cancellation or bad weather.

Read on to find five fun activity ideas you can try on your next first date.

Enjoy a Meal at a Nice Restaurant

It might sound simple or cliché, but dining at a nice restaurant on a first date is always a great idea. You are free to talk to each other all you want without having to cook or clean up, and you can try new dishes that you might not order when you are out with your friends. Going out to a nice restaurant is also a great excuse to dress up in a nice outfit, or get your hair and nails done. Talking with your date over a delicious meal in a restaurant with a relaxed atmosphere can also help reduce any stress you might have about the date itself.

Participate in a Wine Tasting

Wine tasting events are a great way to try several types of wine at once, helping you and your date discover new wines that you will love without having to purchase entire bottles. Try to find a wine tasting led by a master sommelier who can guide your tasting experience and help you understand what to look for in different types of wine. You and your date will have a great time experiencing new wines together. You can even plan ahead and purchase a few bottles of your favorite wines to share on your next date, giving you both something fun to look forward to (and taking the stress away from asking for a second date). If you are not sure what you will talk about during your date, wine can also make an interesting conversation topic.

Support Your Favorite Team

Sporting events aren’t just for getting together with family or friends. Having a first date at a baseball or hockey game where you can both support your favorite team can be a lot of fun. You can both wear your team memorabilia, eat delicious snacks that you might not have at home, and cheer to your heart’s content. And because sports games are casual events, going to one on a first date can take away a lot of the anxiety you might have about what you should wear. Perhaps best of all, unlike at a concert or a play, it’s OK to laugh and chat during a sports game, so you can get to know your date better while you follow the action on the field.

Try a Board Game Night

If you’re looking for a casual, low cost idea for a first date, a board game night could be just what you’re looking for. You and your date can get to know each other while you enjoy snacks and wine or soft drinks, and introduce each other to your favorite games. A board game night is also a fun way to learn how to play new games. And best of all, there are no rules. If you and your date don’t like the first game you try you can set it aside and move on to another one. And if you find a game that you both love, you can play it as long as you want.

Go For a Hike

Hiking together is a great way to get to know someone and spend time in a beautiful natural location at the same time, which can also be very romantic. Hiking trails are available in city, state and national parks, on private conservation land, and in municipal wilderness areas. Hiking trails are available for all fitness levels, too. You can pack a picnic lunch and make a day of it, or choose a trail that only takes a short time to complete and then take your date out to lunch.

The post 5 Fun Activities to Try On a First Date appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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We’ve all been there, in a relationship with a guy who’d rather play Wii with your kid brother than make out with you. Your first instinct is to ask yourself “What’s wrong with me?” There’s nothing wrong with you. It’s just that he’s too immature for you. They say that men mature slower than women. We’ve all […]

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We’ve all been there, in a relationship with a guy who’d rather play Wii with your kid brother than make out with you. Your first instinct is to ask yourself “What’s wrong with me?” There’s nothing wrong with you. It’s just that he’s too immature for you.

They say that men mature slower than women. We’ve all met the guy in this 30s who acts goofy, says stupid things, and behaves insensitively, and it’s a complete turn off for a woman who is looking for a serious relationship. Women want a confident, reassuring man, which is often why women are attracted to older men.

If you’re still in boyfriend/girlfriend status and are ready for something serious, it’s time to weed out the boys from the men. Don’t know the signs? For all you women in your 30’s who don’t want to squander precious time with a guy who’s not willing to commit, here are my top seven clues he’s too immature:

1. He has a job; not a career

If he’s finished college, over 30, and still works as a lifeguard in the summer and ski patrol in the winter, is a bartender at TGI Fridays, or works a salesclerk at The Gap, he’s not taking his life seriously and neither should you. This is a sign of someone who is lazy and lacking ambition. If you’re in the market for a marriage-minded man, you need to listen to your mother and find a nice doctor, lawyer or hell… even an investment banker would be better than that!

2. He’s over 30 and still lives at home

A mature, confident man won’t live with his parents unless his house burns down. If he’s still living with mommy, he’s either emotionally immature, emotionally unstable, or a serial killer. The movie Psycho with Anthony Perkins comes to mind. If he’s not ready to leave the nest, he’s not ready to build a new nest with you. He’s the bird with the broken wing and never soar with the eagles. If he can’t provide for himself, he sure as hell can’t provide for you and a baby.

3. He plans dates with his guy friends on a Friday night

A guy with a solid group of friends is a guy who has a sense of loyalty. This is a good quality. But, if the boys always come first and the bromance is too strong, there’s no room for a woman. He may be a good guy, but he’s not a man. When he’s ready for a serious relationship, he’ll put you before his buddies.

4. He plays video games

Don’t waste your time with a guy who thinks spending an evening playing with his wii or xbox is cool. The only box he should be playing with is yours, and if he can’t make you go wii then what’s the point! Playing video games or dressing up and going to Comi-Con means it’s likely going to be a while before he grows up, if ever. No girl wants a Peter Pan.

5. He’s ready for kids but not marriage

Guys who think they can be fathers before they can be husbands are kidding themselves. They should start by getting a puppy. Or a goldfish. Commitment issues are a huge sign of immaturity. If he’s unable to make decisions and follow-through, do you really thing he’s going to be there for you when things get tough?

6. He thinks it’s okay to get into a bar brawl

Every woman wants to know that her man can defend her, but she doesn’t want to see him kick the crap out of some guy who gets in his face when they’re out for a few beer. Fighting is juvenile and a grown man has too much to lose by getting into a bar fight. Do you really want to date a guy who could spend a night in jail because someone spilt his beer?

7. He’s a perpetual partier

If your boyfriend parties like he’s in college, smokes pot every day and would rather stay out late partying than come home and have sex with you, this is not a good sign. Throw him back in the pond and keep fishing.

Have any more clues you want to add? Feel free to comment.

The post 7 Clues He’s Too Immature For A Relationship appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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The post 7 Clues He’s Too Immature For A Relationship appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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We’ve all been there, in a relationship with a guy who’d rather play Wii with your kid brother than make out with you. Your first instinct is to ask yourself “What’s wrong with me?” There’s nothing wrong with you. It’s just that he’s too immature for you.

They say that men mature slower than women. We’ve all met the guy in this 30s who acts goofy, says stupid things, and behaves insensitively, and it’s a complete turn off for a woman who is looking for a serious relationship. Women want a confident, reassuring man, which is often why women are attracted to older men.

If you’re still in boyfriend/girlfriend status and are ready for something serious, it’s time to weed out the boys from the men. Don’t know the signs? For all you women in your 30’s who don’t want to squander precious time with a guy who’s not willing to commit, here are my top seven clues he’s too immature:

1. He has a job; not a career

If he’s finished college, over 30, and still works as a lifeguard in the summer and ski patrol in the winter, is a bartender at TGI Fridays, or works a salesclerk at The Gap, he’s not taking his life seriously and neither should you. This is a sign of someone who is lazy and lacking ambition. If you’re in the market for a marriage-minded man, you need to listen to your mother and find a nice doctor, lawyer or hell… even an investment banker would be better than that!

2. He’s over 30 and still lives at home

A mature, confident man won’t live with his parents unless his house burns down. If he’s still living with mommy, he’s either emotionally immature, emotionally unstable, or a serial killer. The movie Psycho with Anthony Perkins comes to mind. If he’s not ready to leave the nest, he’s not ready to build a new nest with you. He’s the bird with the broken wing and never soar with the eagles. If he can’t provide for himself, he sure as hell can’t provide for you and a baby.

3. He plans dates with his guy friends on a Friday night

A guy with a solid group of friends is a guy who has a sense of loyalty. This is a good quality. But, if the boys always come first and the bromance is too strong, there’s no room for a woman. He may be a good guy, but he’s not a man. When he’s ready for a serious relationship, he’ll put you before his buddies.

4. He plays video games

Don’t waste your time with a guy who thinks spending an evening playing with his wii or xbox is cool. The only box he should be playing with is yours, and if he can’t make you go wii then what’s the point! Playing video games or dressing up and going to Comi-Con means it’s likely going to be a while before he grows up, if ever. No girl wants a Peter Pan.

5. He’s ready for kids but not marriage

Guys who think they can be fathers before they can be husbands are kidding themselves. They should start by getting a puppy. Or a goldfish. Commitment issues are a huge sign of immaturity. If he’s unable to make decisions and follow-through, do you really thing he’s going to be there for you when things get tough?

6. He thinks it’s okay to get into a bar brawl

Every woman wants to know that her man can defend her, but she doesn’t want to see him kick the crap out of some guy who gets in his face when they’re out for a few beer. Fighting is juvenile and a grown man has too much to lose by getting into a bar fight. Do you really want to date a guy who could spend a night in jail because someone spilt his beer?

7. He’s a perpetual partier

If your boyfriend parties like he’s in college, smokes pot every day and would rather stay out late partying than come home and have sex with you, this is not a good sign. Throw him back in the pond and keep fishing.

Have any more clues you want to add? Feel free to comment.

The post 7 Clues He’s Too Immature For A Relationship appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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Ho, ho, ho! No, Christmas hasn’t come early this year. I’m referring to many of the women of Los Angeles. I wasn’t sure whether I should write about how not to dress like a ho or why not to dress like a ho. One would think that the how is fairly simple: wear age-appropriate clothing that is appropriate in length, don’t show […]

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Ho, ho, ho! No, Christmas hasn’t come early this year. I’m referring to many of the women of Los Angeles. I wasn’t sure whether I should write about how not to dress like a ho or why not to dress like a ho. One would think that the how is fairly simple: wear age-appropriate clothing that is appropriate in length, don’t show too much cleavage, and don’t wear tight clothing. Fairly simple. And yet, I look around Los Angeles and see plenty of women who think that dressing like they’re on the cover of Maxim or Playboy is perfectly acceptable. Newsflash, ladies, its not!

Another way to put it is: go to the bar of Mastro’s any evening between 10pm and closing time, note the skanky chicks with the airbrushed and bejeweled ultra long fingernails, Pamela Anderson hair, transvestite makeup, and dresses that look like they’ve been spray painted on, and do the opposite! Now that we covered how not to dress like a ho, here are 3 reasons why not to dress like a ho:

1. It Sends The Wrong Message

Unless, the message you’re trying to send is $500 for an hour in your hotel room, anal is extra. A quality man will immediately write you off as being nothing more than an easy lay if you dress trashy. And he won’t respect you in the morning. In fact, he will be long gone by the time you’re ready for your first Starbucks. Intelligent women know that being respected and on equal ground with your man is critical to a long-lasting relationship—or a relationship of any kind, for that matter. Take heed to Areha’s great lyrics and make sure the message you send is one of respect. If you want him to respect you (which, by the way, you do) then show some respect for yourself!

2. It Leaves Nothing To The Imagination

When you’re spilling it all out there for everyone to see, a man doesn’t have to imagine what you’d look like naked. And if he already knows what you look like naked, well, that just takes all the fun out of it. Men find it sexier when they can fantasize about the curves of your body rather than see them. Also, let’s be real ladies, if you’re not keeping your body in tip-top shape, having everything spilling out (in a bad way) gives him more reason not to ask you out or try and take it to the next level. Wear form-fitting clothing, instead of tight clothing, and remember that a good man is not going to want to share you with every other man. Coming across demure will make him feel more special when you peel down to your La Perla.

3. It Disgraces All Women

Women these days have it hard enough dealing with the Wonder Woman complex: the expectation placed on them by society that they must be sex kittens, mother, wife, dog-walker, cook, personal assistant, maid and earn a 6-figure salary. We work hard for our money—and not in the way the Pointer Sisters implied. Women’s lib increased the expectations on women ten-fold, but it also gave us more choices and more respect. If you dress like a ho, you’re reinforcing the stereotype that women are only good for one thing (well, four things if you count hand jobs, blow jobs and anal). By making yourself look bad, you bring down the national average and make us all look bad!

The post 3 Reasons Why Not To Dress Like a Ho appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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Ho, ho, ho! No, Christmas hasn’t come early this year. I’m referring to many of the women of Los Angeles. I wasn’t sure whether I should write about how not to dress like a ho or why not to dress like a ho. One would think that the how is fairly simple: wear age-appropriate clothing that is appropriate in length, don’t show […]

The post 3 Reasons Why Not To Dress Like a Ho appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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Ho, ho, ho! No, Christmas hasn’t come early this year. I’m referring to many of the women of Los Angeles. I wasn’t sure whether I should write about how not to dress like a ho or why not to dress like a ho. One would think that the how is fairly simple: wear age-appropriate clothing that is appropriate in length, don’t show too much cleavage, and don’t wear tight clothing. Fairly simple. And yet, I look around Los Angeles and see plenty of women who think that dressing like they’re on the cover of Maxim or Playboy is perfectly acceptable. Newsflash, ladies, its not!

Another way to put it is: go to the bar of Mastro’s any evening between 10pm and closing time, note the skanky chicks with the airbrushed and bejeweled ultra long fingernails, Pamela Anderson hair, transvestite makeup, and dresses that look like they’ve been spray painted on, and do the opposite! Now that we covered how not to dress like a ho, here are 3 reasons why not to dress like a ho:

1. It Sends The Wrong Message

Unless, the message you’re trying to send is $500 for an hour in your hotel room, anal is extra. A quality man will immediately write you off as being nothing more than an easy lay if you dress trashy. And he won’t respect you in the morning. In fact, he will be long gone by the time you’re ready for your first Starbucks. Intelligent women know that being respected and on equal ground with your man is critical to a long-lasting relationship—or a relationship of any kind, for that matter. Take heed to Areha’s great lyrics and make sure the message you send is one of respect. If you want him to respect you (which, by the way, you do) then show some respect for yourself!

2. It Leaves Nothing To The Imagination

When you’re spilling it all out there for everyone to see, a man doesn’t have to imagine what you’d look like naked. And if he already knows what you look like naked, well, that just takes all the fun out of it. Men find it sexier when they can fantasize about the curves of your body rather than see them. Also, let’s be real ladies, if you’re not keeping your body in tip-top shape, having everything spilling out (in a bad way) gives him more reason not to ask you out or try and take it to the next level. Wear form-fitting clothing, instead of tight clothing, and remember that a good man is not going to want to share you with every other man. Coming across demure will make him feel more special when you peel down to your La Perla.

3. It Disgraces All Women

Women these days have it hard enough dealing with the Wonder Woman complex: the expectation placed on them by society that they must be sex kittens, mother, wife, dog-walker, cook, personal assistant, maid and earn a 6-figure salary. We work hard for our money—and not in the way the Pointer Sisters implied. Women’s lib increased the expectations on women ten-fold, but it also gave us more choices and more respect. If you dress like a ho, you’re reinforcing the stereotype that women are only good for one thing (well, four things if you count hand jobs, blow jobs and anal). By making yourself look bad, you bring down the national average and make us all look bad!

The post 3 Reasons Why Not To Dress Like a Ho appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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According to Neil Sedaka, breaking up is hard to do. Nobody said it was gonna be easy. A woman can make a break up even harder on herself by doing the wrong things instead of the right things.  Here are three things a woman should not do right after a break up and why: Trash Your X […]

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According to Neil Sedaka, breaking up is hard to do. Nobody said it was gonna be easy. A woman can make a break up even harder on herself by doing the wrong things instead of the right things.  Here are three things a woman should not do right after a break up and why:

Trash Your X On Facebook

Even if you are bitter, there is no point in telling all your friends and their friends how you feel. Talking trash about your X may feel good, but it will only make you look bad, and it may alienate the people close to you. Instead, write it all out in a letter. Vent until your heart is content. Mail yourself the letter, and keep it unopened for a month. After a month, open it. You will see the progress you made and be glad you didn’t share those thoughts with your friends, family and co-workers. Then you can take a match to the letter and burn it along with those bad memories.

Go Out, Get Drunk, And Go Home With Another Guy

While this may feel like the perfect revenge, and make you feel temporarily hot, sexy and wanted, the chances are you’ll wind up feeling like a used tissue wrapped around a spent condom the next day. You are too vulnerable to expose yourself to someone right after a break up. A more empowering move would be to go out with the girls, flirt up a storm, and go home alone, leaving the guy at the bar wanting. How good does that feel to know you could give him a great time, but chose not to, because you think better of yourself than that.

Jump Right Into Another Relationship

While diving into another relationship may get your mind off your break up, and replace the knots in your stomach with butterflies, rebound relationships are never a good idea and rarely successful. Your emotions are too raw and you’re likely to take out your anger on the replacement guy, and the odds are you’ll wind up right back where you started a few months down the road, recovering from yet another relationship gone awry. If you think this rebound guy is a genuine prospect. Tell him to wait a few months while you get back on your feet. If he’s worthy of your love, he will give you your space and wait.

Instead, step back and reevaluate. Take a mini Eat Pray Love vacation from life. I’m not saying spend a year or even three months traveling to exotic locales trying find yourself—who has the budget for that? But, a little self-reflection never hurt. Get away for a weekend, pamper yourself, spend some quality time alone and take a look at the dynamics that weren’t working in your past relationship, and make a list of what you want in your next relationship. Then, after you have time to grieve, time to get the anger out in a kickboxing class, and time to get your priorities back on track, you can get out there and do as my blogger friend Marrie Lobel of Dirty in Public says, Drink, Meate, Date. Not a bad way of finding yourself post break-up.

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According to Neil Sedaka, breaking up is hard to do. Nobody said it was gonna be easy. A woman can make a break up even harder on herself by doing the wrong things instead of the right things.  Here are three things a woman should not do right after a break up and why: Trash Your X […]

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According to Neil Sedaka, breaking up is hard to do. Nobody said it was gonna be easy. A woman can make a break up even harder on herself by doing the wrong things instead of the right things.  Here are three things a woman should not do right after a break up and why:

Trash Your X On Facebook

Even if you are bitter, there is no point in telling all your friends and their friends how you feel. Talking trash about your X may feel good, but it will only make you look bad, and it may alienate the people close to you. Instead, write it all out in a letter. Vent until your heart is content. Mail yourself the letter, and keep it unopened for a month. After a month, open it. You will see the progress you made and be glad you didn’t share those thoughts with your friends, family and co-workers. Then you can take a match to the letter and burn it along with those bad memories.

Go Out, Get Drunk, And Go Home With Another Guy

While this may feel like the perfect revenge, and make you feel temporarily hot, sexy and wanted, the chances are you’ll wind up feeling like a used tissue wrapped around a spent condom the next day. You are too vulnerable to expose yourself to someone right after a break up. A more empowering move would be to go out with the girls, flirt up a storm, and go home alone, leaving the guy at the bar wanting. How good does that feel to know you could give him a great time, but chose not to, because you think better of yourself than that.

Jump Right Into Another Relationship

While diving into another relationship may get your mind off your break up, and replace the knots in your stomach with butterflies, rebound relationships are never a good idea and rarely successful. Your emotions are too raw and you’re likely to take out your anger on the replacement guy, and the odds are you’ll wind up right back where you started a few months down the road, recovering from yet another relationship gone awry. If you think this rebound guy is a genuine prospect. Tell him to wait a few months while you get back on your feet. If he’s worthy of your love, he will give you your space and wait.

Instead, step back and reevaluate. Take a mini Eat Pray Love vacation from life. I’m not saying spend a year or even three months traveling to exotic locales trying find yourself—who has the budget for that? But, a little self-reflection never hurt. Get away for a weekend, pamper yourself, spend some quality time alone and take a look at the dynamics that weren’t working in your past relationship, and make a list of what you want in your next relationship. Then, after you have time to grieve, time to get the anger out in a kickboxing class, and time to get your priorities back on track, you can get out there and do as my blogger friend Marrie Lobel of Dirty in Public says, Drink, Meate, Date. Not a bad way of finding yourself post break-up.

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You wanted to find a man—your knight in shining armor with his white horse—and you sought him out like a St. Bernard seeks out a trapped skier in a snowstorm. Whether it was a search and rescue mission or a search and be rescued mission doesn’t matter. You have your ideal man. Now you want […]

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You wanted to find a man—your knight in shining armor with his white horse—and you sought him out like a St. Bernard seeks out a trapped skier in a snowstorm. Whether it was a search and rescue mission or a search and be rescued mission doesn’t matter. You have your ideal man. Now you want your ideal relationship. Here’s how to achieve it.  It’s simple. There is no limit to what a man will do for you if you understand his four basic needs:

MEN NEED APPRECIATION

Men need to feel appreciated. They will do many things for you from opening your car door to buying you a new car if you show them that they are appreciated. Make a conscious effort to say thank you and to tell him you appreciate him. Even simple domestic tasks like taking out the trash or stopping to pick up the dry-cleaning for you should be acknowledged. Do little things to show him you care, like buy him a 6-pack of his favorite beer, or bake him a pie.

MEN NEED RESPECT

In business, in sports and in personal matters, the hierarchy among men is based on respect. Women like to criticize and make judgments, which come across as disrespect. Dial down the criticism and never chastise him or berate him publicly. If you create a safe, non-judgmental environment, he will not shut down emotionally or sexually.

MEN NEED TO FEEL ATTRACTIVE

As much as women need to be told they’re sexy, so do men. Your man wants to feel like he’s the only man for you. He doesn’t want to think you just like him for his money. He wants to be the object of your desires as well. Tell him he’s sexy. Tell him you want him. Tell him when he looks handsome. And, act on those compliments by pouncing on him sexually when he least expects it. You’ll be surprised by the effect that has on they way he treats you.

MEN NEED TO FEEL SMART

Men are competitive in nature. They are out there fighting the fight and they want to win. So, complimenting a man on his intelligence is reassuring in that he knows he can compete and win, and also reassures him that he can protect and provide for his loved ones. Complimenting him on his intelligence will boost his morale and keep him feeling at the top of his game.

Something simple you can do to make him feel special is to ask him about his day and isten to the answer. Keep track of what he’s doing in business, and be supportive and encouraging when he is stressed. He works hard, and you need to let him know that you are aware of that, and that you respect that and appreciate him. Men want to be warriors, but they appreciate having a cheerleader at their side.

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You wanted to find a man—your knight in shining armor with his white horse—and you sought him out like a St. Bernard seeks out a trapped skier in a snowstorm. Whether it was a search and rescue mission or a search and be rescued mission doesn’t matter. You have your ideal man. Now you want […]

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You wanted to find a man—your knight in shining armor with his white horse—and you sought him out like a St. Bernard seeks out a trapped skier in a snowstorm. Whether it was a search and rescue mission or a search and be rescued mission doesn’t matter. You have your ideal man. Now you want your ideal relationship. Here’s how to achieve it.  It’s simple. There is no limit to what a man will do for you if you understand his four basic needs:

MEN NEED APPRECIATION

Men need to feel appreciated. They will do many things for you from opening your car door to buying you a new car if you show them that they are appreciated. Make a conscious effort to say thank you and to tell him you appreciate him. Even simple domestic tasks like taking out the trash or stopping to pick up the dry-cleaning for you should be acknowledged. Do little things to show him you care, like buy him a 6-pack of his favorite beer, or bake him a pie.

MEN NEED RESPECT

In business, in sports and in personal matters, the hierarchy among men is based on respect. Women like to criticize and make judgments, which come across as disrespect. Dial down the criticism and never chastise him or berate him publicly. If you create a safe, non-judgmental environment, he will not shut down emotionally or sexually.

MEN NEED TO FEEL ATTRACTIVE

As much as women need to be told they’re sexy, so do men. Your man wants to feel like he’s the only man for you. He doesn’t want to think you just like him for his money. He wants to be the object of your desires as well. Tell him he’s sexy. Tell him you want him. Tell him when he looks handsome. And, act on those compliments by pouncing on him sexually when he least expects it. You’ll be surprised by the effect that has on they way he treats you.

MEN NEED TO FEEL SMART

Men are competitive in nature. They are out there fighting the fight and they want to win. So, complimenting a man on his intelligence is reassuring in that he knows he can compete and win, and also reassures him that he can protect and provide for his loved ones. Complimenting him on his intelligence will boost his morale and keep him feeling at the top of his game.

Something simple you can do to make him feel special is to ask him about his day and isten to the answer. Keep track of what he’s doing in business, and be supportive and encouraging when he is stressed. He works hard, and you need to let him know that you are aware of that, and that you respect that and appreciate him. Men want to be warriors, but they appreciate having a cheerleader at their side.

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You know the movie How To Lose A Guy in 10 Days? Well, I see that and raise it by 7 days. I can show you how to lose a guy in 3 days or less. Want to alienate your man? Follow these five easy steps and you’re guaranteed to push him away and right into another […]

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You know the movie How To Lose A Guy in 10 Days? Well, I see that and raise it by 7 days. I can show you how to lose a guy in 3 days or less. Want to alienate your man? Follow these five easy steps and you’re guaranteed to push him away and right into another girl’s arms.

Want Stuff

I can’t stress enough what a turn off this is to a man. The more you want, the more he sees dollar signs and feels like he will never be able to satisfy your needs. Start every sentence with the words “I want” and talk about all the materialistic things you like. Constantly designer name drop and incorporate these words into your “I want” mantra: Louis Vuitton, Gucci and Chanel. Ask him if he likes shopping. Tell him you want diamond stud earrings—at least 3 carats per ear. Tell him you want an Aston Martin or an Audi R8. And don’t forget to ask him what kind of car he drives, where he lives and how much money he makes.

Talk babies

Whatever you do, don’t talk like a baby. Don’t say “I wuv you,” because that turns guys on. They like women who act like little girlie girls. Instead, talk about wanting babies, about fertility issues, freezing embryos, aging and menopause. Oh, and don’t forget to talk about the irregularity of your period and how many times you’ve had to pee on a stick hoping you’re not pregnant, because your period was late. Nothing turns a man off more than talking about your womanly issues.

Make Him Wait

And wait…and wait. Whether you’re going to the Opera or to a ball game, take at least an hour to get ready any time you go out. Change clothes three or four times, put on so much makeup that you need to sandblast your face to remove it, do your hair three different ways before deciding to just throw it back in a pony tail. Douse yourself in a half bottle of perfume and before you head out the door, give yourself another spray. Or, even better, take your perfume in the car with you and spray yourself once the doors and windows are closed.

Bitch

About anything and everything—your friends, other drivers, the line at the supermarket, and complain about him. When you are not saying what you want, make sure you are complaining about what you don’t have. To effectively alienate a man, you cannot complain too much.

Talk Diet

Obsess about your body image. Walk around the house saying “I’m fat, fat, fat!” Say you need to lose five pounds and then grab a handful of gummy bears and stuff them in your mouth. Any time you see a mirror, stop and look at yourself  and sigh loudly. Say you need a facelift, a brow lift, a tummy-tuck, and your thighs lipo-sucked. Never order anything other than a salad for dinner, with the dressing on the side, and don’t finish it, then ask him to stop at Pink Berry after dinner and load up on frozen yogurt with all the high-calorie toppings. Go to the bathroom during dinner and immediately after, so he thinks you’re bulimic even if you’re not.

Follow those five steps and he’ll be packing his bags within 72 hours. If this doesn’t work, go for the jugular. Tell him that he never turns you on and you are sexually frustrated. Compare him to your past boyfriends—making sure to mention how well endowed they were—and tell him that maybe he should read some how-to books on intimate life.

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You know the movie How To Lose A Guy in 10 Days? Well, I see that and raise it by 7 days. I can show you how to lose a guy in 3 days or less. Want to alienate your man? Follow these five easy steps and you’re guaranteed to push him away and right into another […]

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You know the movie How To Lose A Guy in 10 Days? Well, I see that and raise it by 7 days. I can show you how to lose a guy in 3 days or less. Want to alienate your man? Follow these five easy steps and you’re guaranteed to push him away and right into another girl’s arms.

Want Stuff

I can’t stress enough what a turn off this is to a man. The more you want, the more he sees dollar signs and feels like he will never be able to satisfy your needs. Start every sentence with the words “I want” and talk about all the materialistic things you like. Constantly designer name drop and incorporate these words into your “I want” mantra: Louis Vuitton, Gucci and Chanel. Ask him if he likes shopping. Tell him you want diamond stud earrings—at least 3 carats per ear. Tell him you want an Aston Martin or an Audi R8. And don’t forget to ask him what kind of car he drives, where he lives and how much money he makes.

Talk babies

Whatever you do, don’t talk like a baby. Don’t say “I wuv you,” because that turns guys on. They like women who act like little girlie girls. Instead, talk about wanting babies, about fertility issues, freezing embryos, aging and menopause. Oh, and don’t forget to talk about the irregularity of your period and how many times you’ve had to pee on a stick hoping you’re not pregnant, because your period was late. Nothing turns a man off more than talking about your womanly issues.

Make Him Wait

And wait…and wait. Whether you’re going to the Opera or to a ball game, take at least an hour to get ready any time you go out. Change clothes three or four times, put on so much makeup that you need to sandblast your face to remove it, do your hair three different ways before deciding to just throw it back in a pony tail. Douse yourself in a half bottle of perfume and before you head out the door, give yourself another spray. Or, even better, take your perfume in the car with you and spray yourself once the doors and windows are closed.

Bitch

About anything and everything—your friends, other drivers, the line at the supermarket, and complain about him. When you are not saying what you want, make sure you are complaining about what you don’t have. To effectively alienate a man, you cannot complain too much.

Talk Diet

Obsess about your body image. Walk around the house saying “I’m fat, fat, fat!” Say you need to lose five pounds and then grab a handful of gummy bears and stuff them in your mouth. Any time you see a mirror, stop and look at yourself  and sigh loudly. Say you need a facelift, a brow lift, a tummy-tuck, and your thighs lipo-sucked. Never order anything other than a salad for dinner, with the dressing on the side, and don’t finish it, then ask him to stop at Pink Berry after dinner and load up on frozen yogurt with all the high-calorie toppings. Go to the bathroom during dinner and immediately after, so he thinks you’re bulimic even if you’re not.

Follow those five steps and he’ll be packing his bags within 72 hours. If this doesn’t work, go for the jugular. Tell him that he never turns you on and you are sexually frustrated. Compare him to your past boyfriends—making sure to mention how well endowed they were—and tell him that maybe he should read some how-to books on intimate life.

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Men are not to blame for your “man problems”. Period. End of story. Grow up and take some responsibility. At least that way you will take a little power back and gain confidence in being the master of your own dating life. Woman you are incredibly smart. You are a multi-tasking, smart-working, healthy-living powerhouse. In […]

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Men are not to blame for your “man problems”. Period. End of story. Grow up and take some responsibility. At least that way you will take a little power back and gain confidence in being the master of your own dating life.

Woman you are incredibly smart.

You are a multi-tasking, smart-working, healthy-living powerhouse. In short- you are amazing. Wonder woman. A real life hero. With all of these super powers among us, why is it that most of us just can’t seem to get it right when it comes to matters of the heart. When it comes to love all bets are off. You turn into a needy, love-sick, annoyingly excited piece of mush. Love is your kryptonite. You have no idea how to date a guy.

Men can learn a shitload of valuable and life-saving skills from us women, this we all know. They’d be lost little pups without us (just poking fun guys don’t get offended). But ladies now it’s time to learn something from these men. Men have this dating game down. Oh yes ladies, they are damn good. Hey, we had to be worse then them at something right? When it comes to dating they are the masters of their own universe, the kings of their castles. They seem to do it with greater ease. So let’s take a few notes, let’s turn the tables by learning how to date like a man, think like a man, learn what men want in women, and how they handle themselves in relationships.

Think Like a Man

Men aren’t running around waiting for someone to magically find them and sweep them off their feet and ride off into the sunset. There are men who decide that they are ready to settle down and then may change up their style of dating a bit to accommodate more marriage-ready dates, but they are proactive. Men have an advantage over us in that they can make a decision and then implement a plan that corresponds with it. We have to mull and agonize and be indecisive, and in the end, we are still sitting there waiting for prince charming.

Three quick tips to think like a man:       

Be decisive-decide what you want, date according.

Be open- sometimes just date for the fun of it! Date Him!

Be discerning not discriminating – a man can take one look at you and tell if you are “wifey” material. Don’t waste time with men who don’t have “husband” qualities if you are looking for a husband. Learn to categorize your men ladies! Guys do it ALL the time.

Enjoy Being Single

Life is a ride, and sometimes you just have to throw your head back, stop gripping the rail, and let the wind blow through your hair. Loosen up. It’s a great time to be single: let’s celebrate! Stop worrying so much about when you are going to find the perfect man, or when you will get married. Each relationship you enter into, serious or not, helps you to grow and develop even better relationship skills. By the time you find your “one” you should be sharp and on your best relationship behavior. Some of you are so lost in relationships because you don’t have enough experience. You cut guys out too fast and don’t let yourself date on different levels. It doesn’t have to be a serious courtship or nothing. Chillax. Breathe. Live.

Sex Does Not Equal Love

No. It doesn’t. Sorry. You may believe in the sacredness of sex, want to save yourself for marriage or at least someone that you are in love with, but that doesn’t mean sex=love. Sex is sex. Part of your rights as a woman is to use it how you want to, however you feel is right for you-without feeling guilty! All I’m saying is that just because he has sex with you doesn’t mean he loves you, likes you, or even has a good time with you. Sorry. Next.

So let’s recap what we’ve learned: men are decisive, decisiveness can save your life-and time, men are open to having a good ole time while dating-you should be too. Remember each date and each relationship only fine tunes your skills, and I’ve got skills-wouldn’t you like to have them? Work at them, and have fun in the mean time. Don’t forget to drop your men in a bucket… Dating material, just for kicks, FWB, hubby material… However you want to categorize it makes no difference as long as you understand every man is not a potential husband and should not be brought home to mother, but you can still date-honestly and openly of course.

If you liked this post, do me a favor and share me! 

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Men are not to blame for your “man problems”. Period. End of story. Grow up and take some responsibility. At least that way you will take a little power back and gain confidence in being the master of your own dating life. Woman you are incredibly smart. You are a multi-tasking, smart-working, healthy-living powerhouse. In […]

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Men are not to blame for your “man problems”. Period. End of story. Grow up and take some responsibility. At least that way you will take a little power back and gain confidence in being the master of your own dating life.

Woman you are incredibly smart.

You are a multi-tasking, smart-working, healthy-living powerhouse. In short- you are amazing. Wonder woman. A real life hero. With all of these super powers among us, why is it that most of us just can’t seem to get it right when it comes to matters of the heart. When it comes to love all bets are off. You turn into a needy, love-sick, annoyingly excited piece of mush. Love is your kryptonite. You have no idea how to date a guy.

Men can learn a shitload of valuable and life-saving skills from us women, this we all know. They’d be lost little pups without us (just poking fun guys don’t get offended). But ladies now it’s time to learn something from these men. Men have this dating game down. Oh yes ladies, they are damn good. Hey, we had to be worse then them at something right? When it comes to dating they are the masters of their own universe, the kings of their castles. They seem to do it with greater ease. So let’s take a few notes, let’s turn the tables by learning how to date like a man, think like a man, learn what men want in women, and how they handle themselves in relationships.

Think Like a Man

Men aren’t running around waiting for someone to magically find them and sweep them off their feet and ride off into the sunset. There are men who decide that they are ready to settle down and then may change up their style of dating a bit to accommodate more marriage-ready dates, but they are proactive. Men have an advantage over us in that they can make a decision and then implement a plan that corresponds with it. We have to mull and agonize and be indecisive, and in the end, we are still sitting there waiting for prince charming.

Three quick tips to think like a man:       

Be decisive-decide what you want, date according.

Be open- sometimes just date for the fun of it! Date Him!

Be discerning not discriminating – a man can take one look at you and tell if you are “wifey” material. Don’t waste time with men who don’t have “husband” qualities if you are looking for a husband. Learn to categorize your men ladies! Guys do it ALL the time.

Enjoy Being Single

Life is a ride, and sometimes you just have to throw your head back, stop gripping the rail, and let the wind blow through your hair. Loosen up. It’s a great time to be single: let’s celebrate! Stop worrying so much about when you are going to find the perfect man, or when you will get married. Each relationship you enter into, serious or not, helps you to grow and develop even better relationship skills. By the time you find your “one” you should be sharp and on your best relationship behavior. Some of you are so lost in relationships because you don’t have enough experience. You cut guys out too fast and don’t let yourself date on different levels. It doesn’t have to be a serious courtship or nothing. Chillax. Breathe. Live.

Sex Does Not Equal Love

No. It doesn’t. Sorry. You may believe in the sacredness of sex, want to save yourself for marriage or at least someone that you are in love with, but that doesn’t mean sex=love. Sex is sex. Part of your rights as a woman is to use it how you want to, however you feel is right for you-without feeling guilty! All I’m saying is that just because he has sex with you doesn’t mean he loves you, likes you, or even has a good time with you. Sorry. Next.

So let’s recap what we’ve learned: men are decisive, decisiveness can save your life-and time, men are open to having a good ole time while dating-you should be too. Remember each date and each relationship only fine tunes your skills, and I’ve got skills-wouldn’t you like to have them? Work at them, and have fun in the mean time. Don’t forget to drop your men in a bucket… Dating material, just for kicks, FWB, hubby material… However you want to categorize it makes no difference as long as you understand every man is not a potential husband and should not be brought home to mother, but you can still date-honestly and openly of course.

If you liked this post, do me a favor and share me! 

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As a woman, you have certain rights. Rights about how you what to live your life, the choices you make, and the actions you take.  It is your responsibility to own these rights and to exercise them as a woman. Take charge of your life and never apologize for who you are. I’ve put together […]

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As a woman, you have certain rights. Rights about how you what to live your life, the choices you make, and the actions you take.  It is your responsibility to own these rights and to exercise them as a woman. Take charge of your life and never apologize for who you are. I’ve put together a short list of things that you have the right do to as a woman. Read them, cherish them, share them. Please feel free to comment and add more rights that are important to you or that I may have left out.

You Have The Right To Remain Single

I’m a southern girl, and if you are too, then you know that if you are not married with two kids by the time you are 30 people start assuming something is “wrong” with you or that you are wild and flaky. You are plagued with that dreaded question, “why are you still single?” to which you have an almost seemingly automated response by now. You say it’s because you haven’t found the right one, or because you are focused on your career and you don’t have time, but what you really want to scream is, “because I want to be!!!” that would shut your critics up for sure. I’m here to tell you, there is nothing wrong with being single. Your relationship/marital status no more defines you than the color of your skin. You have the right to remain single, don’t ever let anyone make you feel pressured to be in a relationship, married, or have kids. Own your right.

You Have The Right To Control Your Own Sex Life

At the end of the day you are the one who has to be comfortable in your own skin, you are the one who has to look yourself in the mirror, you are the one who has to live with your choices-not them. If you decided to be celibate until marriage, that’s your choice, your right, your business. If you want to have casual sex with multiple men this DOES NOT mean you have low self esteem, are automatically imply you were sexually abused as a young girl-please. Most women who enjoy sex, and with multiple partners are quite secure in their own skin and love themselves very much, they just enjoy having sex, and that’s their right. Always be safe, be informed, and be yourself. It’s your sex life, it’s your right.

You Have The Right To Love Your Flaws

As women we can sometimes be more critical of each other when what we should be doing is encouraging and lifting each other up. There’s been countless times that I’ve been in a group of women and they’ve (myself included) pointed out flaws in other women around us. Her hair, or the way she wore her dress, the shoes that didn’t match, the extra weight around her belly- and even giggled about it. Truth is, we’ve all got flaws, imperfections. Some are visible, and some are not so visible. Change and self improvement are both essential in life but the first step is to embrace and love who you are today, flaws and all. I’m full of flaws, and far from perfect, but I own my right to LOVE my flaws-and I’m a better woman for it.

You Have The Right To Have The Relationship Of Your Dreams

That’s right, the relationship of your dreams-never thought of what that is? Get a pen and paper and right now write down what you envision your perfect relationship being like. What does your dream man look like? Does he make you laugh? Is he a great father? Is he the life of the party? Does he treat you like his most prized possession? Write it all down and then know that it is your right to have it. Never settle or sell yourself short.

You Have The Right To Inspire Others

You have the right to be an inspiration-so be one! You were given gifts, some in the form of hardships in your life that you are meant to share with others. No matter how small or insignificant you may think it is or how small of a contribution you think it may be just do it anyway. If you affect and inspire only one person you have already made the world a better place. I encourage you to search yourself for those gifts and what you are passionate about and begin to share it. Your soul will love you for it I promise!

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As a woman, you have certain rights. Rights about how you what to live your life, the choices you make, and the actions you take.  It is your responsibility to own these rights and to exercise them as a woman. Take charge of your life and never apologize for who you are. I’ve put together […]

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As a woman, you have certain rights. Rights about how you what to live your life, the choices you make, and the actions you take.  It is your responsibility to own these rights and to exercise them as a woman. Take charge of your life and never apologize for who you are. I’ve put together a short list of things that you have the right do to as a woman. Read them, cherish them, share them. Please feel free to comment and add more rights that are important to you or that I may have left out.

You Have The Right To Remain Single

I’m a southern girl, and if you are too, then you know that if you are not married with two kids by the time you are 30 people start assuming something is “wrong” with you or that you are wild and flaky. You are plagued with that dreaded question, “why are you still single?” to which you have an almost seemingly automated response by now. You say it’s because you haven’t found the right one, or because you are focused on your career and you don’t have time, but what you really want to scream is, “because I want to be!!!” that would shut your critics up for sure. I’m here to tell you, there is nothing wrong with being single. Your relationship/marital status no more defines you than the color of your skin. You have the right to remain single, don’t ever let anyone make you feel pressured to be in a relationship, married, or have kids. Own your right.

You Have The Right To Control Your Own Sex Life

At the end of the day you are the one who has to be comfortable in your own skin, you are the one who has to look yourself in the mirror, you are the one who has to live with your choices-not them. If you decided to be celibate until marriage, that’s your choice, your right, your business. If you want to have casual sex with multiple men this DOES NOT mean you have low self esteem, are automatically imply you were sexually abused as a young girl-please. Most women who enjoy sex, and with multiple partners are quite secure in their own skin and love themselves very much, they just enjoy having sex, and that’s their right. Always be safe, be informed, and be yourself. It’s your sex life, it’s your right.

You Have The Right To Love Your Flaws

As women we can sometimes be more critical of each other when what we should be doing is encouraging and lifting each other up. There’s been countless times that I’ve been in a group of women and they’ve (myself included) pointed out flaws in other women around us. Her hair, or the way she wore her dress, the shoes that didn’t match, the extra weight around her belly- and even giggled about it. Truth is, we’ve all got flaws, imperfections. Some are visible, and some are not so visible. Change and self improvement are both essential in life but the first step is to embrace and love who you are today, flaws and all. I’m full of flaws, and far from perfect, but I own my right to LOVE my flaws-and I’m a better woman for it.

You Have The Right To Have The Relationship Of Your Dreams

That’s right, the relationship of your dreams-never thought of what that is? Get a pen and paper and right now write down what you envision your perfect relationship being like. What does your dream man look like? Does he make you laugh? Is he a great father? Is he the life of the party? Does he treat you like his most prized possession? Write it all down and then know that it is your right to have it. Never settle or sell yourself short.

You Have The Right To Inspire Others

You have the right to be an inspiration-so be one! You were given gifts, some in the form of hardships in your life that you are meant to share with others. No matter how small or insignificant you may think it is or how small of a contribution you think it may be just do it anyway. If you affect and inspire only one person you have already made the world a better place. I encourage you to search yourself for those gifts and what you are passionate about and begin to share it. Your soul will love you for it I promise!

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When internet dating first began growing in popularity, there was a stigma attached to it. In 2019, this stigma is all but gone and it is quite common for people from all walks of life to meet other singles online. Dating sites welcome people of all ages, but their are site that specifically cater to […]

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When internet dating first began growing in popularity, there was a stigma attached to it. In 2019, this stigma is all but gone and it is quite common for people from all walks of life to meet other singles online. Dating sites welcome people of all ages, but their are site that specifically cater to members that are 50+ years of agePeople in this age range can have success on any type of dating site, but may specifically seek members that have gone through a divorce, have children, or have been widowed.

– It can help speed up the bonding process if you and a match have gone through the same event like the loss of a spouse or difficult divorce.

Is It Harder To Meet Someone Over The Age of 60?

Absolutely NOT! The fastest growing demographic for online dating site are between the ages of 50-65. Many of these daters are recently divorced with adult or almost adult children. The most beneficial aspect of online senior dating is that it helps connect people that have similar traits, characteristics, or life experiences. Dating sites either match you with people that fit your criteria or you can search for people who are a good match.

Dating statistics have shown that single people often choose their matches poorly, so don’t be afraid to go with the matches that are set up for you. Sites like Doulikesenior.com use extensive questionaires in order to discover core traits of each member. These traits are processd with a unique computer algorithm and used to match with other members that are a good fit.

How to Date With Kids

Sometimes children can be resistant to the idea of their mother or father dating. They can often feel like they need to protect yiou as their parent. They may not be familiar with online dating or how it works. It might help to walk them through the process and show them exactly what you are doing. Sites like Doulikesenior.com screen their members and are especially vigilant when it comes to criminal records and scammers. If you include them in what you are doing, they may be less resistant to the idea.

How to Watch Out for Scams

Internet dating scams are relatively common, expecially on free dating sites, where there is little oversight. High quality “paid membership” sites take a different policy towards people trying to scam or cause trouble in their community.

In spite of this effort, these scams do happen, and you need to know what to watch for. An example of a scam would go something like this: usually a younger, very attractive member of the site will stike up communication and once trust is gained, ask for money.

High quality membership sites aren’t immune to this type of behavior, but they are less likely to contain these “fake members”. One way that you can protect yourself from this type of scam is using a background check. These are usually inexpensive and can confirm whether you are communicating with a real person or a scammer from Nigeria. Dating sites for senior singles also has an identity confirmation service that is optional to members. If you feel that you are conversing with someone who could potentially be a scammer, ask them to confrim their identity in some way. You can say that you’ve had abad experience in the past and just want to be sure. If they are resistant to the idea, you may want to move on.

Tips For Success With Dating Sites

Relationships that result from using online dating sites tend to get serious much more quickly, than relationships that develop offline. On average a courtship lasted a year and a half before it led to marriage, while offline it averaged four or more years. For best results, daters should:

1) Communicate with many members on the site – It is much more beneficial to look around and see what options are available to you, before you commit to a relationship.

2) Try dating the matches that are generated for you – It is statistically shown that many times we aren’t good at choosing our own matches. Sites like eHarmony and Match have very extensive questionnaires that try to get at the root of each members personality. A proprietary algorithm then matches people with similar personalities and interests.

3) Meet for short 15 minute dates – When you are interested in meeting up with a person that you have been in contact with the site, DON’T GO ON A LONG DATE! Online and offline communication are completely different animals. Short 15 minute coffee “meet-ups” are perfect for discovering whether or not you are compatible.

 

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When internet dating first began growing in popularity, there was a stigma attached to it. In 2019, this stigma is all but gone and it is quite common for people from all walks of life to meet other singles online. Dating sites welcome people of all ages, but their are site that specifically cater to […]

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When internet dating first began growing in popularity, there was a stigma attached to it. In 2019, this stigma is all but gone and it is quite common for people from all walks of life to meet other singles online. Dating sites welcome people of all ages, but their are site that specifically cater to members that are 50+ years of agePeople in this age range can have success on any type of dating site, but may specifically seek members that have gone through a divorce, have children, or have been widowed.

– It can help speed up the bonding process if you and a match have gone through the same event like the loss of a spouse or difficult divorce.

Is It Harder To Meet Someone Over The Age of 60?

Absolutely NOT! The fastest growing demographic for online dating site are between the ages of 50-65. Many of these daters are recently divorced with adult or almost adult children. The most beneficial aspect of online senior dating is that it helps connect people that have similar traits, characteristics, or life experiences. Dating sites either match you with people that fit your criteria or you can search for people who are a good match.

Dating statistics have shown that single people often choose their matches poorly, so don’t be afraid to go with the matches that are set up for you. Sites like Doulikesenior.com use extensive questionaires in order to discover core traits of each member. These traits are processd with a unique computer algorithm and used to match with other members that are a good fit.

How to Date With Kids

Sometimes children can be resistant to the idea of their mother or father dating. They can often feel like they need to protect yiou as their parent. They may not be familiar with online dating or how it works. It might help to walk them through the process and show them exactly what you are doing. Sites like Doulikesenior.com screen their members and are especially vigilant when it comes to criminal records and scammers. If you include them in what you are doing, they may be less resistant to the idea.

How to Watch Out for Scams

Internet dating scams are relatively common, expecially on free dating sites, where there is little oversight. High quality “paid membership” sites take a different policy towards people trying to scam or cause trouble in their community.

In spite of this effort, these scams do happen, and you need to know what to watch for. An example of a scam would go something like this: usually a younger, very attractive member of the site will stike up communication and once trust is gained, ask for money.

High quality membership sites aren’t immune to this type of behavior, but they are less likely to contain these “fake members”. One way that you can protect yourself from this type of scam is using a background check. These are usually inexpensive and can confirm whether you are communicating with a real person or a scammer from Nigeria. Dating sites for senior singles also has an identity confirmation service that is optional to members. If you feel that you are conversing with someone who could potentially be a scammer, ask them to confrim their identity in some way. You can say that you’ve had abad experience in the past and just want to be sure. If they are resistant to the idea, you may want to move on.

Tips For Success With Dating Sites

Relationships that result from using online dating sites tend to get serious much more quickly, than relationships that develop offline. On average a courtship lasted a year and a half before it led to marriage, while offline it averaged four or more years. For best results, daters should:

1) Communicate with many members on the site – It is much more beneficial to look around and see what options are available to you, before you commit to a relationship.

2) Try dating the matches that are generated for you – It is statistically shown that many times we aren’t good at choosing our own matches. Sites like eHarmony and Match have very extensive questionnaires that try to get at the root of each members personality. A proprietary algorithm then matches people with similar personalities and interests.

3) Meet for short 15 minute dates – When you are interested in meeting up with a person that you have been in contact with the site, DON’T GO ON A LONG DATE! Online and offline communication are completely different animals. Short 15 minute coffee “meet-ups” are perfect for discovering whether or not you are compatible.

 

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I know “that” woman you are talking about. Ok, maybe not personally, but I know that you think she is the one woman or the one kind of woman that would really make all your dreams come true. Maybe she is uber hot. Maybe she is seriously sexy. Maybe you think you would have a […]

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I know “that” woman you are talking about. Ok, maybe not personally, but I know that you think she is the one woman or the one kind of woman that would really make all your dreams come true. Maybe she is uber hot. Maybe she is seriously sexy. Maybe you think you would have a killer connection with her. Fill in the blanks however you please.

Whether it’s a celebrity fantasy like Kim Kardashian, Angeline Jolie, Megan Fox or Jessica Alba; or it’s the girl next door; the girl at work; the best friend who you want to get to know in the “other way” – the same question keeps coming up.

“How do I get a girl like “that” to date a guy like me?”

Which is usually followed by a whole bunch of reasons your “mind” makes up which disqualifies you from dating a woman like this. In fact, the mind is a very powerful thing. And, even if a woman like “that” was interested in you – with that current mindset either you wouldn’t see it, or you would sabotage the process so a girl like “that” would eventually lose interest in you.

Now, I’m not going to go on another rant about how important mindset and self esteem is when attracting and dating good quality women (or maybe I am). I would suggest that if you can’t relate to any of what I’m saying – it’s probably because you have grown beyond this point. Congratulations. For everyone else .. keep reading.

So, let me give you an example. Suppose you are a guy who has only ever known, driven, and had cars worth 50K – Who has a dream to own a Ferrari at 500K. Not only do you have a constant fantasy about what it would be like to own a Ferrari (about how great the leather would smell, how fast it could accelerate, and how well it would handle around corners) – you ALSO believe at the deepest part of your BEING that you are only worth a 50K Car.

After all, it’s all you have ever known.

So here in lies the dilemma. Because at the root of your being you believe you are only worth a 50K car – you are setting yourself up for some painful realities which can NEVER match your fantasy.

See, if you believe that you are only worth a 50K car and what you really want is a 500K car (but don’t truly feel worthy of it) – then either you will NEVER get the Ferrari OR you will find a way to get rid of the Ferrari fast when you DO get it. Meaning when you do get to buy it, you won’t be able to retain it in your life for very long. Maybe you crash it, get it impounded, or some other creative way to get it out of your life.

Maybe this has happened, with other things besides cars (get my drift?)

It’s a sucky situation, and I’m sure you are wondering, “So, what’s the solution?”

Well, it’s not all doom and gloom. There is a way which you can have the Ferrari and not only keep it in your life but appreciate and enjoy it for what it’s worth.

What do you have to do? Here it is …

You have to raise your self worth to match what you really want.

Simple right? Let me explain.

If you want a 500K car then you got to believe you are worth a 500K car. Now, that doesn’t mean just repeating, “I’m worth a 500K car” over and over again until you drive yourself insane. No, no, no.

The quickest way to match your reality with your fantasy to increase your self worth bit by bit. Hey, you’ve got to start somewhere right? The trick is to grow your self worth but not beyond a point that ignites the “safety mechanism”. What happens when the safety mechanism engages? Sabotage is what happens. Which basically means that you find new and creative ways to get that “thing” that you wanted so badly – out of your life (this is an unconscious intention, consciously you may be thinking what the “F**K is going on!)

So, how can you start to grow your self worth? Well, going back to my Ferrari example, you would have to start small, by maybe buying a 55K car. And, then a 70K car. And, then a 100K Car. And, so on. And, you would keep each car until you would know that you were able to “comfortably” retain it in your life WITHOUT self sabotage. And, when you were able to do that at each stage you would begin to realize hey I am worthy of a 55K, 70K, 100K car. And, soon you will be well on your way to feeling worthy of a 500K car.

Alright, so I’m hoping that some of you may have been catching on and realize that this doesn’t ONLY apply to cars. It’s applies to the quality of the women that you date.

I know a lot of you who want that dream woman. That one woman you turns your world upside down and who you DO anything for, to be with. She is the 500K Ferrari. Yet some of you only believe you are worth a 50K car/girl. So if you want the dream girl – you have to believe that you are an equal to this woman. You have to believe that you are worth a woman like this. And, truly believe it with your BEING and not just your thoughts.

So, how would you do this? It first starts with approaching and talking to women that you are comfortable talking to. The type of woman this is, will be different for everyone depending on where each individual is at. If you are an incredibly shy guy who doesn’t like talking to people let alone women, then the first step for you would be to make and hold eye contact for about 3 seconds while out and about with any man, woman, or child. And, then go from there.

If you were a man who was comfortable with talking to people just not attractive women then the next best step would be to talk to women who you were NOT attracted to or that you did not find attractive. So, this would be women who you don’t find physically attractive; older women; younger women; women who are obliged to at least be open to communication like sales assistants, check out chicks, waitresses, and so on. And, once you were more comfortable with this focus on moving up to women that you find slightly more attractive and continuing to work up the ladder.

See, the truth is that some of you are at POINT A and want to get to POINT F by tomorrow. It’s not going to happen. There is a process that you must all go through. Patience is the key. As Tony Robbins once said, “People overestimate what they can do in a year and underestimate what they can do in 10 years.” Now, I’m not saying that you have to wait 10 years to get your dream woman. You can go at whatever pace you would like. But, it will be more effective if you set some realistic expectations on yourself.

And, there is nothing to say that the process of getting THERE will be any less exciting than actually getting the goal.

I know from personal experience that working towards goals is always more rewarding than actually accomplishing them. Happiness comes from striving for what you want while being happy with what you have got. Going through this process will also teach you to become more present and more fully engaged in your life. And, to realize that “the moment” you are experiencing right now, is good enough just as it is.

When you can set realistic expectations on yourself; have a strategy to move towards every day; and focus on enjoying the process /moment that is presented in front you – it will help you find the fulfillment and happiness “NOW” that you think a great woman will provide you “in the future”.

I’ve had my say, now it’s your turn. What are your thoughts and experiences with this concept?

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I know “that” woman you are talking about. Ok, maybe not personally, but I know that you think she is the one woman or the one kind of woman that would really make all your dreams come true. Maybe she is uber hot. Maybe she is seriously sexy. Maybe you think you would have a […]

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I know “that” woman you are talking about. Ok, maybe not personally, but I know that you think she is the one woman or the one kind of woman that would really make all your dreams come true. Maybe she is uber hot. Maybe she is seriously sexy. Maybe you think you would have a killer connection with her. Fill in the blanks however you please.

Whether it’s a celebrity fantasy like Kim Kardashian, Angeline Jolie, Megan Fox or Jessica Alba; or it’s the girl next door; the girl at work; the best friend who you want to get to know in the “other way” – the same question keeps coming up.

“How do I get a girl like “that” to date a guy like me?”

Which is usually followed by a whole bunch of reasons your “mind” makes up which disqualifies you from dating a woman like this. In fact, the mind is a very powerful thing. And, even if a woman like “that” was interested in you – with that current mindset either you wouldn’t see it, or you would sabotage the process so a girl like “that” would eventually lose interest in you.

Now, I’m not going to go on another rant about how important mindset and self esteem is when attracting and dating good quality women (or maybe I am). I would suggest that if you can’t relate to any of what I’m saying – it’s probably because you have grown beyond this point. Congratulations. For everyone else .. keep reading.

So, let me give you an example. Suppose you are a guy who has only ever known, driven, and had cars worth 50K – Who has a dream to own a Ferrari at 500K. Not only do you have a constant fantasy about what it would be like to own a Ferrari (about how great the leather would smell, how fast it could accelerate, and how well it would handle around corners) – you ALSO believe at the deepest part of your BEING that you are only worth a 50K Car.

After all, it’s all you have ever known.

So here in lies the dilemma. Because at the root of your being you believe you are only worth a 50K car – you are setting yourself up for some painful realities which can NEVER match your fantasy.

See, if you believe that you are only worth a 50K car and what you really want is a 500K car (but don’t truly feel worthy of it) – then either you will NEVER get the Ferrari OR you will find a way to get rid of the Ferrari fast when you DO get it. Meaning when you do get to buy it, you won’t be able to retain it in your life for very long. Maybe you crash it, get it impounded, or some other creative way to get it out of your life.

Maybe this has happened, with other things besides cars (get my drift?)

It’s a sucky situation, and I’m sure you are wondering, “So, what’s the solution?”

Well, it’s not all doom and gloom. There is a way which you can have the Ferrari and not only keep it in your life but appreciate and enjoy it for what it’s worth.

What do you have to do? Here it is …

You have to raise your self worth to match what you really want.

Simple right? Let me explain.

If you want a 500K car then you got to believe you are worth a 500K car. Now, that doesn’t mean just repeating, “I’m worth a 500K car” over and over again until you drive yourself insane. No, no, no.

The quickest way to match your reality with your fantasy to increase your self worth bit by bit. Hey, you’ve got to start somewhere right? The trick is to grow your self worth but not beyond a point that ignites the “safety mechanism”. What happens when the safety mechanism engages? Sabotage is what happens. Which basically means that you find new and creative ways to get that “thing” that you wanted so badly – out of your life (this is an unconscious intention, consciously you may be thinking what the “F**K is going on!)

So, how can you start to grow your self worth? Well, going back to my Ferrari example, you would have to start small, by maybe buying a 55K car. And, then a 70K car. And, then a 100K Car. And, so on. And, you would keep each car until you would know that you were able to “comfortably” retain it in your life WITHOUT self sabotage. And, when you were able to do that at each stage you would begin to realize hey I am worthy of a 55K, 70K, 100K car. And, soon you will be well on your way to feeling worthy of a 500K car.

Alright, so I’m hoping that some of you may have been catching on and realize that this doesn’t ONLY apply to cars. It’s applies to the quality of the women that you date.

I know a lot of you who want that dream woman. That one woman you turns your world upside down and who you DO anything for, to be with. She is the 500K Ferrari. Yet some of you only believe you are worth a 50K car/girl. So if you want the dream girl – you have to believe that you are an equal to this woman. You have to believe that you are worth a woman like this. And, truly believe it with your BEING and not just your thoughts.

So, how would you do this? It first starts with approaching and talking to women that you are comfortable talking to. The type of woman this is, will be different for everyone depending on where each individual is at. If you are an incredibly shy guy who doesn’t like talking to people let alone women, then the first step for you would be to make and hold eye contact for about 3 seconds while out and about with any man, woman, or child. And, then go from there.

If you were a man who was comfortable with talking to people just not attractive women then the next best step would be to talk to women who you were NOT attracted to or that you did not find attractive. So, this would be women who you don’t find physically attractive; older women; younger women; women who are obliged to at least be open to communication like sales assistants, check out chicks, waitresses, and so on. And, once you were more comfortable with this focus on moving up to women that you find slightly more attractive and continuing to work up the ladder.

See, the truth is that some of you are at POINT A and want to get to POINT F by tomorrow. It’s not going to happen. There is a process that you must all go through. Patience is the key. As Tony Robbins once said, “People overestimate what they can do in a year and underestimate what they can do in 10 years.” Now, I’m not saying that you have to wait 10 years to get your dream woman. You can go at whatever pace you would like. But, it will be more effective if you set some realistic expectations on yourself.

And, there is nothing to say that the process of getting THERE will be any less exciting than actually getting the goal.

I know from personal experience that working towards goals is always more rewarding than actually accomplishing them. Happiness comes from striving for what you want while being happy with what you have got. Going through this process will also teach you to become more present and more fully engaged in your life. And, to realize that “the moment” you are experiencing right now, is good enough just as it is.

When you can set realistic expectations on yourself; have a strategy to move towards every day; and focus on enjoying the process /moment that is presented in front you – it will help you find the fulfillment and happiness “NOW” that you think a great woman will provide you “in the future”.

I’ve had my say, now it’s your turn. What are your thoughts and experiences with this concept?

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